:: Edgeliving: Master Jim and slave marsha ::

:: Sunday, May 25, 2003 ::

The Essential Element: Control

It is commonplace today, both in the D/s and M/s communities to hear the concept of “diversity” applauded. The claim is that there really is no one right way to do things, that individuals are free to develop their own approaches and methods to Dominance and submission and Mastery and slavery. I fully agree that there is no one way to walk the path of Mastery and slavery; however, I firmly believe that there is one element that is absolutely necessary for any Master/slave relationship. That element is control.

The control that a Master exercises over his or her property may vary. For some, particularly when they are beginning their M/s journey, the control over the slave may develop incrementally, with the Master adding elements of control over a period of weeks, months and even years. If an experienced Master and slave are coming together, the initial control may be much more complete. The important point is that some degree of control is an absolute necessity. Without it, a Master/slave relationship simply does not exist.

I began my Master/slave journey with slave marsha by assuming control over certain aspects of her life. When we began this journey, both of our experiences were grounded in SM, and not M/s. I cannot say that at the beginning of this journey I had an epiphany that revealed to me that the only way to succeed at this was to go slowly, adding control in increments. I simply felt that assuming control slowly was the best way, and the way that felt most comfortable for me. Today, six years after beginning my M/s journey, I control all aspects of my slave’s life. Some days that control is operationalized by making very detailed decisions over what she can and cannot do. On other days, the control is exercised at a much more general, or higher, level. But regardless of how the control manifests itself on any given day, I and slave marsha both know that she is my property, and subject to complete control.

In leather,

Master Jim

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